Introduction:
Merle Haggard was more than a country music icon—he was the living embodiment of the genre’s honesty, grit, and emotional truth. Few artists ever poured their personal struggles into song as fearlessly as Haggard did. His life was complicated, often turbulent, and deeply human, and nowhere was that more evident than in his relationship with his second wife, Bonnie Owens. Their story is not simply one of marriage and divorce, but of creative partnership, enduring friendship, and a final moment so heartbreaking it still brings listeners to tears.
Haggard was married five times, and each relationship left its mark on his life and music. Yet his marriage to Bonnie Owens, which lasted from 1965 to 1978, stands apart. Bonnie was not only his wife but also a gifted musician in her own right. In 1965, the same year she married Haggard, she won the ACM Female Vocalist of the Year. She joined him on tour, helped raise his children from a previous marriage, and quietly became one of the most important forces behind his creative peak.
During a surprise appearance at the Country Music Hall of Fame and Museum in 2012, Haggard spoke candidly about that period. He described it as a time of intense creativity, crediting Bonnie for capturing his ideas the moment inspiration struck. If he even hinted that he might write, she was there with a pen and paper, documenting every word. Haggard later admitted that without Bonnie, some of his greatest songs might never have existed. Classics like “Mama Tried” and “Workin’ Man Blues” were born in those years, and he insisted they would not have been written without her presence and encouragement.
One of Haggard’s most beloved songs, “Today I Started Loving You Again,” was written specifically for Bonnie. After a long Texas tour, the couple finally had a brief break together. Sitting in an airport in Los Angeles, Haggard turned to her and said, “Today I started loving you again.” Ever the practical professional, Bonnie immediately replied that it sounded like a great song idea. Later, back on tour, Haggard famously wrote the lyrics on a paper hamburger bag. Though the song never reached the Top 10 on the country charts, it became a timeless classic, later recorded by legends such as Waylon Jennings, Conway Twitty, and Kenny Rogers.
Despite their eventual divorce, Haggard believed it took the end of their marriage for them to understand they were never meant to be husband and wife—but they were meant to remain close. Their friendship endured for decades, lasting until Bonnie’s death in 2006.
The most powerful chapter of their story came at the very end. When Haggard visited Bonnie as she battled Alzheimer’s disease, she led him to her room and showed him a large photo of the two of them together. She pointed to it and said simply, “He’s my favorite.” She never realized the man standing beside her was the same one in the picture.
It was a moment of pure love and devastating loss—a reminder that memory can fade, but emotion endures. In that final, quiet truth, Merle Haggard and Bonnie Owens proved that some bonds survive fame, failure, divorce, and even forgetting.