Introduction:
When it comes to the heart of country music, few names carry the weight and legacy of Merle Haggard. Known for his raw honesty, down-to-earth songwriting, and a voice that resonated with generations, Haggard’s life was a country song in itself—filled with hardship, redemption, and deeply human connections. Among the many chapters in his storied life, perhaps one of the most touching is his enduring bond with his second wife, Bonnie Owens—a relationship that transcended marriage and, eventually, memory.
Merle and Bonnie married in 1965, the same year she won the ACM Award for Female Vocalist of the Year. Bonnie, a talented musician in her own right, didn’t just share the stage with Haggard—she supported him through one of his most prolific creative periods. As Merle himself recalled in an emotional 2012 interview, Bonnie was the quiet force behind many of his greatest hits. “If I even indicated that I was going to write,” he said, “she was there with a pad and pen… She didn’t miss a thing.”
Hits like Mama Tried and Working Man Blues owe much of their existence to Bonnie’s attentiveness and encouragement. But perhaps the most iconic tribute to their bond is Today I Started Loving You Again. Written during a brief break in a grueling Texas tour, the song was born from a simple but sincere moment between the two at the Los Angeles airport. When Haggard told Bonnie, “I think I’m starting to love you again,” her response wasn’t emotional—it was practical: “That’s a great idea for a song.” And so he wrote it—on the back of a paper bag while waiting for a hamburger.
Despite divorcing years later, their relationship didn’t end. In fact, it evolved into something arguably more enduring: a deep, lifelong friendship. Haggard often credited Bonnie not only for his music but for keeping him grounded during turbulent years. Their connection remained strong until Bonnie’s passing in 2006.
The most poignant moment came during his final visit to her. Bonnie had been suffering from Alzheimer’s and didn’t recognize many people around her. But she insisted on taking Merle down to her room to show him something. There, behind her bed, was a large photograph of the two of them in happier days. “He’s my favorite,” she said, not realizing she was speaking to the man in the photo.
Merle choked up as he recalled that moment—a moment filled with both love and heartbreak. It was a reminder of the depth of their bond, one that outlasted fame, touring, and even memory.
In a world of fleeting relationships, the story of Merle Haggard and Bonnie Owens stands as a powerful testament to love’s ability to endure—even when everything else fades. For fans of classic country, it’s not just a touching tale—it’s part of the music’s very soul.